I hope I haven't depressed all of you with this entry. It's not just about death and losing loved ones; my intention is to instead remember those who have impacted my life and to honor them for that.
Someone told me either right before or soon after my niece died that you never get over losing someone you love. At the time I found it to be a depressing statement and was disinclined to believe them. However, as time has passed, and I have felt the pain of loss so keenly, I can understand what they were trying to tell me. Nothing can ever fill the hole that person leaves when they die, and it's likely we will mourn that person for the rest of our mortal lives. But, it's our job to try to remember that person as best we can, learn from the example they set for us and keep the hope alive in our hearts that we will see them again. Healing from death doesn't mean forgetting; it means finding a way to cope and moving forward. I'm glad Memorial Day could remind me of that.